BHC Member: Phe

Have you ever had your heart broken?

Yes, but I don't begrudge anyone. I've moved on to a newer, better, love in my life. There's no point in dwelling on, what is essentially, nature.


Have you ever broken someone's heart?

I think, maybe a few--unintentionally.


Does it hurt?

Right now it hurts because the person I love can't be with me the way that he and I would both like him to. I try not to let this discourage me.


How are you coping?

Sometimes it's hard for me to keep loving when I don't see the love I'm putting out being reciprocated...but I can't stop. I just love more. I put all of my love out, all of my heart. I guess I cope by keeping faith. I believe, beyond a shadow of a doubt, if I keep my heart open one day I will find someone who understands me and who will return my love. I honestly feel I've found this person now--and even though things are currently difficult--I haven't given up. I can't give up. I guess...it's my faith, and my persistence...and my ambition and hopes and prayers that help me cope. I am so filled with optimism there's no room for negativity.


What have you learned?

I have learned a lot and everyday I learn more. I guess what I have learned is that when you love someone...when you really love someone...you have to give them your all--even when times are hard--you have to put in everything you've got! Even if they don't ask for it...you have to. I just don't feel right not showing my love 100%.

I've also learned that loving someone means that you've found someone who makes you genuinely happy and feel good about loving. When you love someone you feel good about yourself and you want to do your very best at everything in life. I think that's what really loving someone means. You don't WORSHIP that person or feel you can't live without them, but you are extremely grateful to have them in your life because they make the world seem so much brighter. That's what I think real love is.

Someone who makes you sad or feel bad about yourself or makes you feel like they are more important than you are--I don't think that's really love.